Beginning to look for your Wedding Dress is a magical thing. We have gathered some shopping tips and hints to prepare you for this exciting journey which hopefully will make you feel better informed.
What style of dress should I go for?
Prioritize your personality and what you would like to project on your wedding day. For example: classic, romantic, sassy, demure, boho or any of the other looks. Then you might think if you can imagine any must-have features, such as sparkle, pouf, lace, sweatheart, with or without straps etc.
Remember that it is possible to find dresses that incorporate several vibes.
If you are not sure what you are looking for when you come to your appointment – don’t worry because your consultant is there to help you.
Is always best to at least have a starting point, but when you are at your appointment aim to try several different styles to see what feels right once it’s on.
It is important to come with an open heart, and an open mind, because what you have imagined might be totally different from what you’ll end up loving the most.
Don’t be 100% set in your views because it might restrict your thinking process and make the search necessarily hard.
You could end up being your own worst enemy if you let “that dress” (that doesn’t even exist) bring your shopping experience to a halt.
When looking for your dress, think of which parts of yourself you would like to show off. Maybe you have beautiful décolletage, the perfect back or toned arms etc.
If there are any areas which you possibly would like to disguise – be reassured that the beauty of modern Bridal Fashion is that there are styles to fit everyone.
The more information you give the consultant, the easier they will find you ‘the one’.
Many wedding dress retailers (and wedding magazines/ websites etc) will ask you details about the venue you have chosen, as it might affect the style of dress you should go for. And it could make sense not to wear heavy fabrics and expanding trains in hot summery locations such as the beach, and likewise: if you are getting married in a cathedral you might want to avoid a revealing strapless form fitted gown with a sheer corset bodice.
But remember that there are so many styles out there – there is some room for maneuvering. If you do want to wear a ball gown to the beach, you can choose lightweight materials such as georgette, tulle or silk, or wear a skirt/ train you can remove.
In the cathedral, wear a dramatic cape or detachable train or sleeves to cover up and maybe have a champagne coloured lined bodice for the sake of the family names reputation.
With the options of adding separates pieces you can pick and choose – the modern world of wedding dress design gives you flexibility.
The most important thing to remember, is that you are happy with what you are wearing . The venue might have norms and practicalities, which are both possible to overcome with some clever thinking.
They say “the bigger the venue – the bigger the skirt” but that is only true if it rings true to you.
What suits my body type?
You might find a chart somewhere on pinterest which advice you what dress silhouette is right for your build, but we think they are only true to some extent and therefore haven’t included one here.
Because we believe a full-figure bride can look equally stunning in a sleek sheath and a tall bride in an empire, so to us, there are no restrictions. It is only optional to follow fashion advice – the best judge of your dress on your figure is how the dress makes you feel. Gorgeous? Then it doesn’t matter what the infographic chart on pinterest said.
If the dress that is supposed to be right isn’t – try something new.
Who shall I bring with me?
As the “Say yes to the dress” TV show suggests, you might feel like it is a fun idea to as well and your mum and dad also bring your 5 bridesmaids, your 2 big brothers, your granma, your stepmum, your cousin, your aunt and your best friend from first year (no not high school – the first year) along to your dress shopping experience.
We need to stop you right there and say that IT IS NOT.
For a number of reasons:
-They might think they know you, but they don’t know your bridal you, or what wedding dress you wan’t to wear. How would they know when you might not even know yet?
-Some of them have never worn a wedding dress, or if they have, it is likely to be a long time ago. They probably don’t know about current wedding dresses, or in any case what style truly resonates with you – because you would have to try a lot of dresses before you can know for sure.
-To choose a dress, you need peace and quiet, so that you can hear your self think clearly, and listen in to your intuition. Getting pushed around/ aside by others enthusiasm or disagreements, however well meaning they might be, can complicate and disturb your emotions.
-With 4+ people in the room, chances are that you will get confused, not feel able to make yourself heard, or in worst case: bullied into believing you want something that you didn’t initially, the moment your cousin shouted that you look silly in pink and should rather wear something with sparkles.
-Ok so lets say they know your bridal you, what current trends are, and seem reasonably composed and positive. It is still going to be really hard for anyone not to get personal about it and project their own preference, and recommending their own favorite – which might of course not be the brides – yours.
Nor is it fun to go dress shopping alone. The ultimate number of guests is between 1 and 3. Choose people that you know are gentle, respectful, neutral to the outcome and know your style and what wedding you have in mind well.
Let them know what you are looking for before the appointment so that they are aware of your desires. If you have chosen the right people, they would never purposefully stop you from wearing what makes you happy, what they knew was your ultimate dress dream, even they wouldn’t wear it themselves.
Mothers seem like the obvious choice of person to bring, but unless she is paying and feels the strong need to have a say, she should just trust your judgment and you should feel mature enough to make your own best decision. Yes, that TV show says the mother needs to cry for you to know it is the right dress – but please know that most of that is staged anyway.
I love my mum dearly but I still would not let her influence what I bought for my big day. I know we don’t have the same style choices and being from two different generations and backgrounds, we just don’t have the same priorities.
I did all the initial dress shopping with my maid of honour but chose my dress by myself at a later stage.
Maybe they would not have said so when they sat in the comfy sofa in the wedding dress shop?
Only bad friends would take over your appointment or let their opinions rule – you’ll be surprised what dark sides wedding dresses bring out of people. Rather play it safe, take your sister or someone else that support you unconditionally.
At any rate, let it be a intimate, uncomplicated and joyous time. Because shopping for your dress is a delicate matter so please don’t let unnecessary noises conflict this precious decision.
Listen to your gut instinct, and remember that Confidence is Beauty! Only YOU can decide what is right for your personality and your wedding.