A marriage is a marriage not only between two people, but also between two peoples personalities, traditions, tastes and ideas of how the wedding should happen.
A wedding day is so unique, that there is actually no exact rule how to design yours. But by creating a vision, you have a template to follow and a visual guide as a reference which will come so handy when you start executing your ideas and moving towards that goal.
Creating the vision is the fun part. After that comes the practicalities, but let’s start with the dreaming and envisioning before anything else!
This Wedding vision Pack was made to help you and your fiancé to find out, and define what you really yearn for. Print a copy each, and sit down to compare notes afterwards.
Only you and your fiancé are in charge of how your wedding should look like, when it will happen and where and how it will take place. Take as long as you need to to figure it out – there is no rush to announce your wedding date when you have announced to the world your engagement (but trust us – the world will ask about it, a lot!)
It is likely that each of you will have different ideas, so be considerate to each others wishes. Give each other space to come with suggestions and give them equal thought. As in any successful marriage – don’t forget to compromise!
Ideally you will have your wedding vision crystallized before you decide a date or set out to look for a venue.
As opposed to following a theme, how about putting together an event which is based solely on what you two love and enjoy? It could be inspired by anything from your mutual travels to a country, elements from your favorite movie, based around an area of your country that you love, favorite time of the year etc.
This way your wedding will represent the two of you’s unique blend of characters, and allow you to explore all the possibilities that opens. Maybe you guys met in December in an acting class – how about a Romeo + Juliet inspired wedding with rich and moody winter colours?
In addition to your Wedding Vision Result, these are additional questions you can discuss when you and your groom-to-be sit down for your first Wedding Vision meeting:
- What would you like your wedding day to “feel” like, from a guest perspective? Fun, classy, edgy, original, ethereal, luxurious or anything you can think of?
- What colours and decor style do you love?
- Are you traditional – in which case what elements are really important?
- Are you untraditional – what new traditions or versions of old ones could you add to make it yours?
- What overall look to you want to create, described in 2-3 words?
- What have you always dreamed of (if you have) for your wedding day? Perhaps you’ve always wanted to arrive by horseback – why not just do it?
- What inspires you?
- What defines you?
- What version of yourself would you like to present to your guests? Your adventurous side, your eclectic side, or maybe you just want to go all traditional?
- A good way to find about you existing decor preferences is to look around in your home: what decor do you already enjoy? What colors are prominent? Are you more towards classic or perhaps quirky? Elegant, Minimalist or lots of details? Your home will say a lot about you!
- Maybe your existing style isn’t what you wan’t for your wedding, in which case you should start from scratch and dig around in your wildest wedding fantasies…which are they?
- If you don’t know, could you draw from a movie, book or special place you read that you really love? Imagination is your only limit – let anything that you find inspiring enthuse you.
- Don’t be bullied into thinking your must follow conventional norms or what a family member expects of you.
Lets say you have settled on a Rustic theme because you both love the countryside…this doesn’t mean you are confined to all things rustic in your wedding. Perhaps you want to give the predictable burlap a miss in favour of chiffon table runners. Skip the mass produced mason jars altogether and go for homemade concrete candlesticks instead. Blend in any style that works for you to make it special and exciting.
When you go your own way as opposed to following a pre-determined plot, an individual expression and truly magical wedding is guaranteed!
Certain combinations are destined to be together: Traditional + classy. Vintage + ecclectic. Beach+ boho. Beach + tropical. But why stay there when you can dream up your own combination on what already exists, or create a brand new category that only you can define.
(We think Tropical midcentury or Mid century boho could be great combinations to explore).
Imagine how you can take it further, to make it truly unique by personalizing it with something else you love. For example: you’d like a whimsical wedding. How about drawing inspiration from Alice in wonderland?
Be broad in your thinking. A coastal venue may lead you into thinking that following a nautical scheme is the right thing. But a fine art wedding or bohemian theme could work as beautifully! Many combinations of common styles may work. And there are more waiting to be invented.
Combine the right elements to suit your personalities. How about a classic white wedding in an abandoned warehouse style location? Pushing the limits of your imagination can be so rewarding and will create a truly-you wedding day. Juxtaposition is a word that could be used liberally in wedding envisioning, we think.
We recommend to NOT look too much at pinterest as it will overwhelm and confuse you; it is a surely bombastic way to get lots of inspiration at once, more than you could ever ask for. If you find an idea you love, try not to copy it directly – always put your own individual spin on it.
Please stop pinning after 2 months! The more you pin, the more frustrated and confused you might feel, and the more diluted your vision will get. Your worst nightmare would be to be discovered as a wedding copy cat.
In the end of your Vision Quiz and your meeting with your fiancé, you should have ideas ready to start creating your Vision Board. You will revise the vision, add or deduct from it as you go along, but try to nail down the bigger picture as early as possible as it will make further decision making so much easier.
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