Did you get engaged on Boxing day or perhaps New Years day? Congratulations! This is the most exciting thing -EVER- and I am sure you are still buzzing on the proposal high and those butterflies have not really stopped fluttering in your belly yet, have they? (They won’t stop for some time actually)
You have spent a month just soaking up the excitement and admiring your ring and perhaps started to dream of venues, dresses and your invites. And possibly realized how insane that wedding planning to-do list really is?
This is why we are writing this post for you today – below are 7 steps that will springboard you into planning mode, and they will quickly and easily tell you what to start thinking about now and why – without over complicating it. The rest will come to you as a natural progression, but here’s the most crucial of essentials that will help you get a firm grip on the new situation. Once you got this the rest should make more sense!
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Quick steps to get a grip:
1: Wedding budget
First do some basic research on what things are expected to costs, then be sure to sit down together and as a couple decide what is a reasonable amount to spend on this day. It is a very special day, but it is also just one day… and there is a long happily ever after which will also require some big spending.
- Set up a spreadsheet with all the big and small wedding elements that you plan to include. We actually did this for you already – grab your copy of the Budget Planner here
- Budget-Guestlist-Venue are three factors that go hand in hand – what you can spend on one is determined of the other. Their individual budgets may need to be established more or less at the same time.
- Contrary to belief, a bigger budget or a bigger guest list doesn’t mean a better wedding. What makes the wedding great is the atmosphere, shared love and the meaningful gathering to celebrate your commitment.
2: Find a venue
The venue you choose will determine a lot of other details, so a firm venue plan is the second essential step!
- After determining your budget, start researching and visit venues. Have a basic idea of number of guests, seasonal preferences and if you want it to be outdoor or indoors.
- See at least 3 different venues before you make your decision – unless everything seems to fall into place earlier.
- Finalize your date according to the venues available dates – deciding a date first can lead to some headache. Venue first!
- Make sure you know exactly what their fee entails. Ask for a list of all services included and what isn’t.
3: The dress
- Research your local bridal salons and book at least 3 appointments. Prioritize salons that definitely stock dresses in your style, budget and size.
- Have an idea of what you are interested in trying first, but try not to be too fixed on one particular idea until you have worn a few different silhouettes.
- Always have a budget when shopping for your gown – and remember to include accessories and shoes in it, too.
- Try to not over-think it! It might sound impossible, but the truth is that the more you try the harder it is to buy. The ideal dress will flatter your body, reflect your personalty and fit with the intended wedding. No body needs to cry for it to be “the one”!
4: Finding vendors
Your vendors will be the cornerstones of your wedding, so spend at least a month to think about what you would like your wedding to be all about, to then research the vendors that are likely to enable that vision.
- Always ask for references, look at previous work and check their websites and social media accounts.
- Ask about what is included, hidden extras and when to pay deposits.
- Give them the guidelines which will help them to help you get married the way you want.
- Everyone will appreciate not being micro-managed. Choose vendors well, then trust their professionalism and let them do their magic.
5: The photographer
Your photographer is the one who will capture this incredibly significant day. Take your time with finding the one who takes the kind of photos that you will want to look back on for the rest of your lives.
- Look at their previous weddings and make sure that you love the photos you see, as you will not be able to ask them to change their photography style just for your wedding.
- Do an engagement shoot with the intended photographer – this makes great practice for how it is to be photographed professionally, as well as getting a sense of the final outcome before the wedding.
- Do consider a wedding videographer, and why not a drone?
- Find a free worksheet with questions you need to ask your photographer here.
6: Develop your wedding style
Don’t be afraid to express your personality a lot when planning your wedding. For your guests, it makes the wedding even more spectacular.
- Think about ways to inject your wedding with elements that says a lot about you as a couple.
- Put a limit on wedding inspiration. After you have formed your own ideas of how your wedding should look and feel like, it is the right time to stop pinning. Let your wedding be authentically yours.
- Using your imagination, tell your story with handmade touches, personalized vows, decor centered around something meaningful to you.
- Dare to challenge traditions in order to host a truly memorable event which stands out for its uniqueness.
- Find more about how to create a personalized wedding here.
7: Staying on top of the game!
Weddings are days filled with anticipation, expectation and fuss that can be exhausting and overwhelming to fulfill. The greatest importance is that you have fun with your Groom, family and bridesmaids whilst preparing for it.
- Do what you can to avoid placing too high expectations on yourself and the day.
- Cross out all the irrelevant items on the to-do list that just doesn’t ring true to who you are.
- De-dramatize as much as possible when planning; try to keep perspective and always remember not to get too serious about all the smaller details that will shortly after the wedding not matter a great deal anyway.
- If planning get too much – simplify, delegate and try to not control everything.
I know you wan’t everything to be perfect, but that you are getting married is the biggest treasure of all, and it is going to be awesome, whichever way it turns out!