Engagement tips no-one told you – yet

Not that there aren’t enough on your planning checklist already, but with today’s post we want to highlight the secrets that will extensively make your engagement more smooth.

If your wedding journey has fewer bumps in the road, you can arrive at the altar feeling your best and most prepared!

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Achieving the dream

Contrary to what Pinterest has given you the visual impression of, your wedding must-have list shouldn’t contain too many things.
Prioritize your dream aspects of your ideal wedding day and shape it around your unique identities.

The need to “have it all” is an imagined notion. Think of ways to de-clutter the day to contain only the most important traditions – or new ones – according to your personal preferences. Many of the other things can be given less priority/ budget, or left out entirely.

You are going to be faced with decisions.. a LOT of decisions!
Have a long engagement if you don’t want to rush things.
If making decisions make you anxious, try to make decisions as a team. Find a way to rationalize and simplify. Discuss in advance with your fiancée which decisions are crucial and which are not so much.

Strike a balance – perhaps if you can’t agree on something, divide your to-do list into areas of responsibility.
As a married couple, you’ll need to compromise on many future things.. now is a good time to start!

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Expectations… are of course running high and you wan’t everything to P-E-R-F-E-C-T. But try to lower the bar and focus mainly on having a great time with your Groom and family. It will save you stress and prevent disappointment.

Many of the details will simply be forgotten about soon afterwards. When faced with tricky decisions, always ask yourself… how much is this ACTUALLY going to matter?

Learn to say NO in a polite way. Everybody loves to come with tips and ideas for your wedding and have a say! It might soon start to become annoying, so find a way to instantly seem grateful for their advice, whilst deflecting from an immediate commitment.
Something like: “That is a sweet thought, thank you! We will definitely put into our pool of options, but just be aware that at this stage we also have many of our own wishes to fit in”.

Your aunt will hopefully understand!

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The perfect wedding dress

You shouldn’t need to visit 5 bridal shops and try 50 dresses before finding the one!
Research the bridal shops well to ensure that they are likely to have something you like before even booking. This will avoid disappointments and spending valuable time in dresses that just wont cut it.

The perfect dress is comfortable, make you feel special and fits in with the wedding. Being not entirely unpractical is a good thing too. Choose with your personality and budget in mind – beyond that, there is no need to over-complicate it!

Avoid getting your dress altered at the bridal boutique, as they add huge charges for this. Rather take the dress to a professional and reputable dressmaker or tailor, who will do it for a lot less, and possibly even better.

If possible, ask your wedding dress salon to sew in a supportive bra that you know fits you perfectly into the dress. This way you can hug, dance and be lifted and squeezed by your groom without the worries of a boob slip.

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Bridal beauty top secrets

As you get engaged, vow to set aside at least 1 day per week where you do a bit of extra pampering for yourself. Such as a foot soak, a sauna, a DIY facial treatment. Not because you are trying to achieve a Miss Universe complexion, but because anything which is pampering is also relaxing and rejuvenating, which will ultimately boost your confidence and wellbeing.

Don’t rush to the chemist to stock up on a myriad of new beauty products. Chances are you will confuse your skin – and spend the wedding budget. Stick with your tried and tested routine, perhaps just adding an extra set of steaming, exfoliation and mask, all which can be achieved at home.

It’s of course tempting to sign up for boot camp and get into the best shape of your life. But be advised that you will need all the time and energy you can spare for planning related affairs, so don’t exhaust yourself too much. Of course, a gym session or a run is great to manage stress levels, but trying to loose lots of weight can be a stress in itself. Besides, your Groom already thinks your the hottest person in the world!

Feeling relaxed, comfortable and smiling will ultimately be the secret to the bridal glow that everyone is taking about!

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Editor

Jo Malin created this blog for modern couples who yearns for the extraordinary. Based on her sheer love of transparent planning advice, artful styling and contemporary bridal looks, she writes for the freedom of getting married the way you want. When she is not editing the blog, you can find her sketching and sewing for the new label Sheer Bride, vintage shopping, building a ceramic sculpture or walking on the beach.